n e advice about getting two cats to become friends

[phoenix]

hi i recently gained a new cat he has been here for 2 days 2 nights now my other cat has lived with me for all of her life inbetween she has had other cats lving with her how can i make things easier for them to try to get tem to get on at the momen all they are doing is hissing at each other they will go around 1 meter apart they wont go n e closer with out hissing i know its early but not sure if there is anything i can do to help them become friends so to speak. i do know they may not any ideas would be greate the new one is a boy under a year old due to have his bits removed next week and my other cat is 9yrs old like i said has had cats with her b4 just not for about 4/6 years

[Cleo]

Try these suggestions:

Feline Introductions

[phoenix]

ty will give that ago

[phoenix]

thanks for your help they were just getting along almost but we lost oscar thursday gone he was hit by a car and suffered major head tromer i was told he would have died instently am very heart broken and missing him loads the house dosn't feel the same with out him

I ONLY WANTED YOU

They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.

A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.

In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.

If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven
and bring you back again.

Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.

Author unknown

[Traci]

Please, INDOORS ONLY FOR CATS!!. I'm not trying to add insult to injury, but this accident could have been totally prevented!

***tears***

[phoenix]

thanks for making me feel worse

this could have been prevented if stupid ppl driving there car recoulsly drove with more comment sence

my cats are quite happy to play out side and normaly stick to the back of the house i dont think its fair to keep cats locked up all day u can't take them for a walk like u can dogs

[Traci]

Read the link again please.

Your cats are not children, and they do not know to look both ways while crossing a street. You can't expect other people to be responsible for your cats. Pet ownership is a responsibility and it's up to you to ensure their safety and protection.

Don't expect or depend on any cat to "just stick around the back of your yard", 99.999% of all cats who's owners allowed them to do so, disappeared, or got hit by a car, or were killed, and every single one of them could have been prevented. If you care about your remaining cat(s), you'll make the effort to keep her indoors only. The link explains how to do that.

[phoenix]

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i find your coment very rude " if i care about my other cat" which i do as she is healthy loved well cared for and free to rome i dont shove my views down your thought dont u dare sove them down mine i am in uk and we belive animals have the right to be free not locked up 24/7 i find this this very hard to belive that u can constently lock a cat up in side the house i find this really un fair to the cat yes there are risks its like same with us shell we all stay in doors and turn in to a hermit?????? shell we lock our kids up same thing can happen we dont lock the dogs up 24/7 we take them for a walk every day twice a day sorry but us ukers like to treat our pets with respect not like the house is a prison coz it not sorry to say i came in to update you and let u know not to be treated like i have done something wrong and like a child which i am not, i have had cats meney years.......


ps your not me mum so leave it out


pps i dont want to be a part of this group sorry to member who are nice but i dont like being treated like a fool thanks ......... c ya

[Traci]

You had your new kitty for less than a month and a half, and the poor baby was not even a year old yet before you were unresponsible and let him out where he died getting hit by a car. How fair was that to HIM!!

There's no excuse to continue letting your other cats out, since you already know what happens when you do. That was the entire point of my post and the informative link I gave you, get it?

No need to respond, thank you.

[slvrwhispr]

If you're from the UK and you believe strongly that cats should be allowed outdoors, why on earth would you come to a US site, where we believe strongly that cats should be kept indoors where they're safe and get all personally insulted about it?

It would be like if I, as a Christian, went to a Jewish message board and asked them for advice about Jesus, then got personally insulted when they told me they didn't believe he was God's son. It doesn't make sense. I know they don't believe the same things I do, so why go there and get MAD about it?

The thing is, with the indoor/outdoor debate, there's factual evidence to support keeping your cat indoors, while there's only anecdotal evidence to support letting them roam free. So... if you're just dead set in your beliefs that it's cruel to keep your pets inside where they're safe, don't get upset when you come here KNOWING we believe something different, and argue about it anyway.

We're very sorry about the loss of your cat, and I have no doubt that you loved him very much and are deeply mourning his loss. But consider this: If it was truly detrimental to cats to keep them locked inside, do you really think that all the MILLIONS of cat owners in the US would have failed to notice?