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Raina
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Moving and My Cats

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Hello all. I'm having quite a crisis with my cats and moving at the moment. As I think I mentioned in a post a couple months ago, In a month or so I'm going to be moving 900 miles away. My boyfriend and I have an apartment with 2 roommates, one of which also has a cat (only one though). From the beginning, my 3 cats were going to come with me, but then they decided on this particular apartment (that they said allowed pets) and a few days after they moved in it was decided my cats couldn't all come. The application only mentioned being able to have 2 pets, but they figured what the landlord didn't know wouldn't hurt them (I guess?). Now they've decided that it is too risky to do, and they refuse to let me bring them all. So now - I can only bring one of them, and the other 2 must stay with one of my family members for 4-5 months until the current lease runs up and my boyfriend and I get our own place (assuming I can find someone who even will babysit them - I am not sure I can and then I don't know what I'll do). I am choosing to take one with me rather than have all 3 of them stay, because a. One of them doesn't get along as well with the other two, b. Because there's no chance anyone will babysit all 3 of them, and c. Because the one I'm taking needs special attention with her litterbox problems. This whole thing is breaking my heart - my cats are like children to me. Being apart for them for so long is going to tear me apart, but as of right now, it is my only option aside from giving them away, which I could never bear to do and will not do. As of right now, I have to hope one of my family members will be willing to babysit them. :( I'm so stressed out and upset about this - I don't know what I'm going to do.

Anyway, assuming this whole thing works out, before all of this the 3 of them have to either get declawed or get a tendonectomy. I've read a little bit here on what a tendonectomy is, but I had a few questions about it. Do the tendons grow back eventually and if so in how long? How effective is this? What are cost differences between tendonectomys and declaws (My vet said 900 for all 3 of them to be declawed, I'm 18 and with this new apartment and moving I don't have much money and I have not a clue how I'm going to be able to afford declawing.. :))? And how often do nails need to be trimmed when they've had tendonectomys?

My other question is about flying with my cat. All 3 of my cats are on the nervous side. The one coming with me will be with me on the plane as carry-on. Is it recommended that I take her to the vet beforehand so the vet can give her some kind of sedative or something to calm her?
~Raina~
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I'm alittle confused....are you saying the roommates got the new apartment, are waiting for you and BF, and are now saying all three of your cats cannot be allowed?

I am wondering why you and your BF have not opted to find an apartment of your own, thereby allowing all of your cats. Many landlords will accept a deposit for cats, be prepared you may need to pay one deposit per cat, but every landlord is different.

I am also confused about your decision to declaw. If a particular landlord has told you your cats must be declawed in order to allow them into an apartment, this is pardon-my-language, BULL. NO landlord has the right to dictate you must declaw your cats. If one suggests you do so, promptly find a new apartment with a landlord who is not going to even mention declawing. I assume any new apartment will be furnished with your own furniture, etc, so landlords rarely have any excuse to ask for declawed cats.

As for flying, please be advised: Cats should NEVER be in a situation where they are placed in a cargo hold....this is dangerous for a variety of reasons (you won't be able to check on them, nor will anyone else, you can't gaurantee the air temperature, noise, etc, and if the plane is delayed or layed over, and if cargo is left on an airport tarmac in high temperatures, this can be disastrous for the cats). Talk to your vet, call the airline way ahead of time for any restrictions, etc, but the best method is never allowing your cats in cargo.
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Nah, my boyfriend and our two roommates all moved in to the apartment at the same time. I live however, 900 miles away from them, up until now my boyfriend and I have had to fly every few months to see eachother. From the start, it was known to the other roommates that my 3 cats were to come - and they complained about it (because they don't like the idea of having 4 cats in the place, though personally I don't see anything wrong with just their presence if they are being taken care of properly and aren't stinking up the place or tearing it up), but they agreed to them coming. When they decided upon the apartment they decided upon, the application only mentioned 2 pets being allowed. But they just told me that it'd be ok if we kept it quiet. *After* signing the lease and moving in, the reality of the situation suddenly hit them that if the landlord found out they could get kicked out, and their credit ratings could plummet damaging their ability to get a new apartment. And personally - I don't mind that, they have a right to their reasonings and opinions as much as I do, and I don't want to impose - but they should have put more thought into it -before- the lease was signed, and I really feel like I was cheated big time. If only they had spoken up sooner, this mess would have been prevented. But I cannot turn back time, the lease IS signed, and my boyfriend is obligated to pay the rent there for 5 more months - there's nothing we can do about that. We would never have agreed to roommate with them if we'd known this sooner.

I am aware of the pet deposit thing - it was 500 for this particular apartment, and then a certain fee per month. But I agree that it's not hard to find a place that'll allow them, and that's what we're going to do as soon as this lease expires. The declaw thing had nothing to do with our landlord, though. I wouldn't make a decision like this just because my landlord said so, I'd go elsewhere. The decision to declaw or get a tendonectomy is one that my boyfriend and I made. (I won't go into it here, because I know this is a heavily debated subject and not permitted to debate on here and for good reason, but I have tried and know of other alternatives, have also read the declaw info page on here and many declaw posts, and this has become my conclusion.)

The flying thing I did a search for on here, and it came up with a few posts but most of them didn't go into detail much about it except for two of them. I honestly wouldn't put my cats in the cargo though either way, my cats are way too skittish and I don't trust some luggage loader with my pets, all in all it sounds like a bad idea. The airlines I have looked into flying on's restrictions for carry-on will allow only 1 pet for carry-on, but that is all I can take for now anyway. The other two will come later when the lease runs out and we'll be taking a roadtrip to drive up and get them. I fully realize that splitting them up (which I made the choice of which one was coming based on logic, not playing favorites; I love them all very dearly, and equally) is not mentally healthy for a cat, and placing them in a completely different territory without me isn't either. It won't be healthy for me OR my cats. But it's my only real option, and the alternative option that isn't really an option - giving them away permanently - is worse to me, for them and for me. Either way it's a lose lose situation, and this is why it is upsetting me so much. :(
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So, I assume you can't stay where you are now with all three cats until the lease for that new apartment runs out and you can find a better place together with your bf?

Or, could you alone move somewhere else now with all three cats? You say, two of your cats will stay with family, can you and the third cat move in there too for 4-5 months?

If there are financial concerns you have to weigh what is heavier, money problems or emotional stress for you and your kitties if you seperate them (from you, each other and their territory). I think I would opt for the financial strain rather than the stressful situation you describe, if I were you.

You could postpone the declawing for a while, saves you 900 right now, which you can use to rent something short term for you and all three cats.
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I don't know your situation, but if it's possible for you to stay put for the 5 months required until your BF can get out of his lease, perhaps this would be better for all involved. In this case, your BF could be spending that time looking for a suitable apartment for you and him and all your cats. Then, at that time, he could fly to get you and all the cats, and you could all drive back together. For your safety, the cat's safety, that would be the best option. I wonder about the stress situation for both you and the cats if you were to go now, live there for 5 months, and then uproot again and go through the whole stress period again (especially the cats, two moves would be extremely difficult for them)
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I can't stay where I am right now, because at the moment I am still living at home with my dad, and he drinks and we don't get along. Honestly, as far as the cats go, I think moving would even be better for them. The cats are afraid of him, because he is always chasing them around with a water bottle when they aren't doing anything wrong and hissing at them to scare them. I know that it sounds ridiculous..... it is. He doesn't like cats, yet he's gotten used to mine and I think he even might like one of them, but he doesn't realize that it scares them; he claims they enjoy it and that it's 'playing'. I've tried talking to him about it numerous times, explaining why he shouldn't do it, but it doesn't work. Not only that, but here my life is at a standstill; I cannot get a job here because I've no transportation and we live too far from anywhere to walk, and a bunch of other crap that I won't go into. Suffice to say that until I move, I am under a great deal of stress, both from living here and being apart from my boyfriend. Looking at it from every angle, staying where I am is not an option. The only 2 family members that would be willing to let me -and- my 3 cats stay with them have no room, my cousin being in a small one bedroom apartment with her boyfriend, and my aunt lives in a 2 bedroom place with 3 people including my grandma and their one cat. As far as getting my own apartment, It'd be good to get one just near my boyfriend for now but as I said I am young and just starting my life and I can't afford that yet at all. I do appreciate your guys' ideas though, it's nice to know people who will take the time to try and help.

I have decided to postpone the declawing however. I was skeptical at first, but I've read more about Softpaws and for the time being at least, I'm going to order some and try them out. Anyone had any experience with these?
~Raina~
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