Please help...moving & have 2 backyard burials.

[FromBeyond138]

This is kinda hard to talk about (or even think about). Its a heavy topic so Ill just put it in plain English. Ill post this way down at the bottom in case some sensitive readers would rather not see it.



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We are moving in the next few months. We have 2 backyard burials on our property. Both are sealed plastic storage containers & 2-3 years have passed since burial. Im thinking of 2 possible options:

1.) Exhume & re-inter at our new property is probably our best bet. I cant stand the thought of disturbing our beloveds but I refuse to leave them behind.

2.) I spoke with a local pet cemetery & they offered to seal the existing containers inside their containers & rebury at the cemetary. This is a good option too but its expensive.

Any advice or recomendations would be much appreciated. Thank you.

[E's]

I agree the 2nd option would be best, if it is in any way affordable... you would not have to go through so much unhappiness about the reinterment, and could get off to a more cheerful start in your new home, yet would know you had acted respectfully. I think that if you feel this strongly about the matter, you should try to fit this expense into your budget.

As to the 1st option: Would you be able to locate a reliable person not part of the family to take care of this for a lot less than the pet cemetery charges? Like a gardener or landscape worker, or a handyman? You could purchase suitable new containers yourself, have the person you've hired do the actual exhumation, and - if possible - the transporting to new site and reinterment; then afterward you could hold whatever ceremony you wished.

There are now reliable and relatively reasonable pet crematories in my city, and that is my preference now (from my desk here I can see Prince Xanth's basket urn on the landing bookcase; his ashes are waiting for Q's and `Eowyn's and mine...) But there are three burials in the backyard of this house... all from quite a few years ago. One is Zorrah Rorschach the Inkblot Cartoon Cat, a sweet, lovely kitty who was with us nearly 14 years and is buried on the spot where she was born; the other two were feral mama cats neighbors and I cared for outside over several years... I have no plans to move any of them, yet have wondered sometimes what people are going to think if there's no one left here to explain when a new house is built on this lot...

Anyhow, don't apologize for the nature of your post - these things have to be considered on occasion. Do the best you can and try not to let yourself in for guilt feelings or unnecessary sadness.

Thanks for the interesting link! Good luck to you.
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