I need serious help....

[jason]

three weeks is early for introductions, have you read this or that thread? i have outlined some things to try there.

the bottom line is you cannot rush this, it takes time and the introductions need to be handled properly or its possible they will continue this for quite sometime.

[ashley1]

Does the vanilla extract thing really work (it was in the "this" link)? It seems like it wouldn't, because Whistle just has to look at Nikki and she hisses.

[jason]

Does the vanilla extract thing really work

well, perhaps with some cats it does (i honestly dont know).

i think some an established area for Nikki should be first priority, like an office or bedroom that stays closed with food/litter/water for her. let them smell each other through the door for a while as Nikki gets her jets cooled down.

[ashley]

thanks for all of your help, and I will definitely try to keep Nikki up. My room is Nikki's "area", but it breaks our hearts to leave her in there with the door closed because she mews pitifully. She just gets louder and louder until we eventually let her out; she just loves to be with people. It really is the funniest thing, though... she has started to "stalk" Whistle when she isn't looking (just trying to play, not being aggressive), and when Whistle sees her and smacks at her, she drops flat on the floor instantly and kind of pushes her self backwards while she's still on her side. I know it's not a good thing, but it really is cute.

[jason]

My room is Nikki's "area", but it breaks our hearts to leave her in there with the door closed because she mews pitifully. She just gets louder and louder until we eventually let her out; she just loves to be with people.

might need to lock yourself in there with her too.

from your other comments, sounds like this time away from Whistle might already be giving her some self confidence, it will of course take much more time. kinda early for that, might be coincidental.

thanks for the updates.

[ashley]

lol! thank you all for your help, and i will continue to post updates as they occur. best of luck!

[Guest]

about three weeks

if your cat is getting violent to you I would suggest giving the kitten to somebody else, trust me I ended up in the hospital as a kid when my mom braught in a pregnant stray and I was holding my cat back with a bear foot from tearing her apart, he eventually tore my foot up, it got infected and I stayed a day or two in the hospital due to infection. Although when I braught in a stray kitten he actually liked her and washed her even.

[Guest]

I was going to post almost exactly what Jason has posted, I think that's the best way to handle things, as hard as it may be sometimes.

Females seem to have a harder time adjusting to new kitties, at least in my experience. Females are very territorial and don't like to share.

It'll take some time but they'll end up at least tolerating each other, eventually. Hang in there and good luck. Just remember who is top cat in the house and make sure she knows that you know it too. If you put her first then she'll accept the kitty in time. It seems hard right now but it'll work out.

[Phoebe's human]

I'm assuming both kitties are spayed--or the kitten will be spayed?

Each kitty having her own separate space, preferably a room or a few rooms, with NO access to the other kitty's space, for a while--maybe many months--seems like the best idea.

Each kitty ought to have her own litter box and her own food and water dishes.

You might have to arrange this so that the kitty who is more upset about being left alone is in the space you yourself are in.

You may have to wait a long time and be very patient about this, and it will be a nuisance for you, but it will pay off in the end, I'm fairly sure.

I agree that both kitties should be strictly indoors. I know it breaks your heart to interfere with a cat's free-roaming nature, but, let's face it, the world out there is too full of dangers nowadays for a cat to survive very long. Statistics have shown repeatedly that cats who go outdoors don't live long at all.

[Darla's Momma]

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I agree that both kitties should be strictly indoors. I know it breaks your heart to interfere with a cat's free-roaming nature, but, let's face it, the world out there is too full of dangers nowadays for a cat to survive very long. Statistics have shown repeatedly that cats who go outdoors don't live long at all.

My cats are indoor/outdoor cats, both spayed with all their vaccines...the oldest is now close to 13 years old, still spry so I don't know what makes you say cats that go outdoors do not live very long.
I do live in a kind of rural area..no city like traffic...